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    Posted by ___deleted-user on 28 August 2009 at 22:10

    As the evening draws to as end I sit here and wonder how others feel about a single woman such as myself wanting another child at 40. Some I am sure would say that I have one and that should be enough especially as there are so many who cannot even have one. 😮

    Well I know what that feels like as I have endometrosis and getting pregnant the 1st time was a blessing as doctors had told me at 20 years old “You will never have children”. There was no gentle breaking of the news, no sorry I was left in a room to deal with the news and for a time I kept this to myself but when I finally told my own family I was able to explain the reason for the doctors diagnosis. Yet still I said “Docotrs have been known to be wrong”

    I was later told that I could apply for IVF treatment but when I mother became ill I took the decision to put er 1st and at least I can say I did right by her and the family as she is still here and able to see that she has produced a fighter and I am. 😀

    So it may seem selfish to some that I could want one more child but I am a good person and I think a good mother and if I’d been like others in my own family I would have had more children the normal way but I cannot which is Y I am here. 🙂

    My son would love a brother or sister and if he had his way both in one go lol although I’d be content with just one more but all because I am single does not mean I should give up thats how losers think and I was never one of those.

    your thoughts ❓

    ___deleted-user replied 14 years, 9 months ago 1 Member · 2 Replies
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  • ___deleted-user

    4 October 2009 at 08:24

    Hi, I don’t think you are selfish for wanting a sibling for your little one! My close friend has bad endometriosis also, but luckilly she doesnt want children. I have heard not only would it be hard to become pregnant but also painful for her. I myself had crohn’s disease, which could be tricky when I become pregnant. I wish you all the best, and I hope you’ve had some luck finding a donor.

    My ex-flatmate and a good friend literally conspired to become pregnant, using one-night stands an d short-term boyfriends. Which is another way to go about it, but I personally think she was devious and she hasn’t really thought it through. She is now 8 weeks pregnant though, so I guess she got what she wanted.

    Are you in the US? There is a much better network of sperm banks there, as they pay for donation I presume. In New Zealand where I am it’s all voluntary and extremely hard to find someone, and when ou do they’re often not serious or they offer “natural” method only.

    – Missy

  • ___deleted-user

    13 October 2009 at 11:32

    Hi, I’ve just read about endo (big word) and feel better for reading your post. I don’t think men would have a clue unless your partner has it. Sounds painful. Hope you get your wish on here, theres a lot too learn for sure.

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