a bit worried

    by rosie      .      09 Dec 2009

    Hey all,

    Just wanted to talk a bit to people who have received donor sperm and what actually happens, I am a bit new to all of this and I just wanted to know some information.

    I want to AI myself at home with donor sperm, but I don't know how to get the sperm; let me explain: once I have found the right donor and arrange for him to donate his sperm to me; does he send his sperm to me? or do we meet in a public place and hand over the 'goods' then I go home and inseminate myself? I have all the kit for the insemination, and I am tracking my fertile dates from the first day of my last menstual cycle. I have the ovulation test strips (the ones where you pee in a contain and hold the stick in and then take it out and leave it for a couple of mins and it has two lines if i am most fertile and near to ovulating) so do I use those strips when I am supposed to be most fertile and the days leading up to this fertile time? Then once I am near to this fertile stage, do I tell my donor that I need the sperm soon? How many times in your fertile window to you inseminate yourselves? As I don't know how I should arrange it with the donor? Because I guess only inseminating once a month at the most fertile time is going to give a small chance of conception compared to if I was to inseminate myself 3 or 4 times in the window of fertility. Some websites say inseminating every 3-4 days, what is your opinion on this?

    Does anybody have their own experiences they would like to share?
    I'm sorry to be a pain about this, I just want to do this completly right from the start.
    Please reply on here as I can't access my messages,
    Thank You =)

    8 Replies

    rosie on 09 Dec 2009

    Hey all,

    Just wanted to talk a bit to people who have received donor sperm and what actually happens, I am a bit new to all of this and I just wanted to know some information.

    I want to AI myself at home with donor sperm, but I don't know how to get the sperm; let me explain: once I have found the right donor and arrange for him to donate his sperm to me; does he send his sperm to me? or do we meet in a public place and hand over the 'goods' then I go home and inseminate myself? I have all the kit for the insemination, and I am tracking my fertile dates from the first day of my last menstual cycle. I have the ovulation test strips (the ones where you pee in a contain and hold the stick in and then take it out and leave it for a couple of mins and it has two lines if i am most fertile and near to ovulating) so do I use those strips when I am supposed to be most fertile and the days leading up to this fertile time? Then once I am near to this fertile stage, do I tell my donor that I need the sperm soon? How many times in your fertile window to you inseminate yourselves? As I don't know how I should arrange it with the donor? Because I guess only inseminating once a month at the most fertile time is going to give a small chance of conception compared to if I was to inseminate myself 3 or 4 times in the window of fertility. Some websites say inseminating every 3-4 days, what is your opinion on this?

    Does anybody have their own experiences they would like to share?
    I'm sorry to be a pain about this, I just want to do this completly right from the start.
    Please reply on here as I can't access my messages,
    Thank You =)

    sue5 on 14 Dec 2009

    Hi rosie I'm also looking at A.I, tried the natural thing but don't think i would do it again, just don't feel right.
    I think its best to do it 3 or 4 times a month around ovulation, well thats what i'm planning on.
    Are you on MSN?
    I would love to chat on there if you are.
    My MSN address is ******
    Would be good to talk to someone on the same road as me.
    Talk to you soon
    Sue

    rosie on 14 Dec 2009

    hey sue

    its:
    ******
    hope that they let me tell you this email on here.

    i would love to chat with you as well

    take care
    x

    sue5 on 18 Dec 2009

    You will have to upgrade cos i dont think they will let any messages go through. :(

    Deb on 03 Jan 2010

    Hi Rosie,

    You asked all the same questions that have been on my mind . . . have you managed to get any answers? I hope it's going well for you. Please let me know if you've figured any of it out! It's all new to me!

    Deb

    Tanya522 on 16 Apr 2010

    I was going to ask exactly the same questions, did you find any answers, I am very new to this and could do with some help :D xx

    vicki3 on 17 Apr 2010

    yep i have those questions too!! I've never gone into this before and am concerned as to how safe it all is... for example how do you know if the donor is legit? :?:

    sue5 on 19 Apr 2010

    Hi girls i've been using a donor for 7 months now and found the whole thing suprisingly easy.
    If theres anything you want to know just ask and i'll try my best to answer.
    Sue

    mng on 20 Apr 2010

    could some one who has gone through the process PLEASE, PLEASE post some answers. there is a niche in the market for a book -Etiquette when using a sperm donor lol. I would like to know what happens when you have found a donor is it worth upgrading our account?
    thanks mng


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